Long Distance Relationship Diary. Chapter 2: Only Fight For What Really Matters
I am not a relationship expert, but I feel it is safe to say that couples in all kinds of relationships fight. If you ask me, couples that say they don’t fight at all are probably lying. Well, maybe they aren’t, but if you are one half of a couple that has never had a single argument, please let me know and I will edit this post accordingly. I digress.
I don’t know my current relationship with J outside of a long distance capacity, so while I can’t say this next bit with 100% certainty, I am going to make an educated guess (based on the fact that J and I do essentially live together for days/weeks at a time, schedules permitting) that a majority of my arguments with J have either been initiated or exacerbated by the fact that we are long distance.
That’s another thing about long distance relationships: fighting is even worse when you are in one because you have limited time to spend together as it is. Even fighting over the phone or Skype is bad because you are not there in person to fix things with a cuddle, with a kiss, or with a hug. Plus, on a phone or Skype, you can always just hang up.
Lesson number 7,239 that I have learned from being in a long distance relationship: only fight for things things that matter. Do you really need to hold that grudge because you misinterpreted a text? No. Does it really matter that he wants to watch a foreign film while you wanted to watch a rom com on your Saturday night Skype date? No. Does it matter that you are trying everything you can to make your long distance work and to be together as soon as possible? Yes. In fact, that’s the ONLY thing that matters.
When it comes down to it, in order to make the most of the time you have together when you’re long distance, you could save those silly fights for when you’re actually together and no longer long distance (and when you can bake him a cake to make up for it). But when your wallet is empty from travel tickets and your heart is frustrated because you can’t hug your S.O. (significant other) via Skype, there is no better way to channel those negative emotions than to convert them into energy spent on pushing through the distance. At the end of it all, you’ll be together and those small fights won’t even matter. In fact, you might not even have them anymore. Because at that point you’ll know that being together is the only thing worth fighting for.